Are you a victim of abuse at work? When it’s your boss that is bullying you, it’s worse because you don’t know where to turn to. The bully is at the top of pyramid and cannot be reported and reprimanded. However, the battle to protect your dignity is not lost. Let us walk you through the steps to follow.
These five tips will help you deal with the misery of being forced to feel inferior and controlled at your workplace.
Realize That You’re Being Bullied:
The signs of bullying at work are simple to identify. Does your boss accuse you in public? That’s humiliating. For criticism to be constructive, it must be done in private with supportive feedback for guidance. Does your boss steal credit for your work or intentionally allocates it to someone else? This is wrong. Employees deserve to be fairly recognized for their efforts and achievements.
If you put in commendable time and effort towards your work but cannot remember the last time your boss told you a sincere “thank you”, you are being overlooked and this is unacceptable. If you politely tried explaining to your boss about your concerns, only for your job to be threatened in return, these are clear signs that you are being bullied at work.
Does your boss make derogatory comments on your appearance, do you find your supervisor trying to sabotage your work by assigning you unrealistic deadlines with crowded to-do list? Essentially, you are being set up to fail, this is another sign of bullying in the workplace.
Be Bold & Be Professional:
It is totally natural to react to aggressive behavior. In fact, this is the target of bullies. Their satisfaction is your lack of comfort. Do not lose this psychological battle. Do not let your aggressive boss win. If you are choleric, work on cooling your nerves. Replying back with insults will not help your case as your boss will jump at the opportunity of using your words against you. Remember, “you have the right to remain silent”. And document every incident in your personal journal by date, and taking account of witness near by. Build your case with concrete evidence and wait for the right moment to plead your case to Human Resource, or Compliance Hotline. It is important to note, read all your company’s policy from cover to cover about the company’s expectation of employee and employer conduct. This will help you understand your rights as an employee, and what your boss can or cannot do to you.
“If your boss’s behavior leaves you feeling rather depressed and humiliated, open up to someone you can confide in, like a close friend or relative outside of work. Air out your concerns and let them remind you that you are not what your boss claims you are. You are worth much more than that!”
Know Your Rights:
If you are in this fight alone, document every incident. Of course, not everyone likes dragging matters to human resources let alone having a stay in court. The best thing would be to seek expert advice. In the United States, there are organizations such as WBI (Work Bullying Institute) http://www.workplacebullying.org/ to help you with that. In any case, you will need evidence. Screenshots of aggressive messages sent to your mobile phone, email exchanges with timestamps and everything else you can think of to build a strong case for yourself.
Strategize to Break Free From Under, That Bullying Manager!
Things just can’t remain that way. You must not accept to be bullied. You must reject the misery of living in constant fear, anger and pressure. In a world where the unemployment is high, employees feel obligated to hold onto their jobs even when they hate it. Of course, the bills won’t pay themselves; someone has to go through the hassle of showing up at work every day in order to make ends meet. However, the power to say “enough is enough” lies within you and through your inner strength to know what environment is conducive to your mental health and well-being.
“Whether you manage to control your boss’s behavior or not, think about the next step: who wants to share oxygen with a negative person?”
Strategize in silence
Look for a new job or work on your own start-up business. Prepare to kick your boss out of your life for good. When you feel you have nothing to loose, request for a meeting to address the bullying issue one-on-one with your boss. Speak boldly and professionally. Show signs of Emotional Intelligence. If possible, get a witness ( Human Resource Manager) during the all-important meeting. After you have reviewed the company policy from cover to cover, about the expectation the company has set forward for the standard of employer to employee business conduct. If you find any areas, that your boss is violating, lead with these examples first, along with supporting dates, witnesses, and evidence, of when your rights as an employee were violated.
After the Dust Settles
Go where you are celebrated. If people treat you badly, it’s not about you. It’s about them. Strengthen yourself psychologically with positive thoughts. Be smart. Invest energy in your plan to break free from the harassment. Your boss may eventually fire you unless you decide to resign first. Whatever happens, walk out boldly and never subject yourself and your integrity to such unprofessional way of engaging in business ethics. You are too good for that and we know it!
Learn More: Bullying Infographic
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