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Top 10 Fashion Designers & Trends in Pakistan

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“I like my money where I can see it, hanging in my closet,” Carrie Bradshaw. Being a native of Asian region, we see climate changes are all year round. The  Sun heats up with record-breaking temperatures a woman must find the best way to stay and keep her cool.

In order to maintain dazzling and trendy style in the summer we have captured all the looks just for you!

Summer is the hottest of the four seasons. The days are longer and the nights are shorter, women in the South of Asia are often in search for fashion looks  that are comfortable yet stylish. The light cotton clothes protects the body from the harsh sun-rays while allowing you to achieve an amazing look.

Top designer brands have brought a pleasant change to women’s fashion industry. It’s  all about embracing something different and seeing how you feel in it. The ankle-length trousers have changed into mid-length trousers. Women in Pakistan have spoken and “we are obsessed with mid-length trousers”. For some reasons, it also drives women ages 30s or above crazy as they look younger and elegant by wearing mid-length trousers (also known as european cigarette pant). The shirts (blouses) are usually loose fitting and not skin-tight, as loose-fitting clothes for women in Pakistan always grooms the body. Giving women the look and feel of comfort and elegance.

The race between the designers providing the customer the perfect material in stitched and un-stitched dresses have continued to expand the fashion market in Pakistan. New and vibrant color schemes paired with western or european styles are slowly being adopted in current trends seen in the South of Asia.

The best thing is you can get all the designer’s trendy clothes sun-raysby just clicking on their official online site. All of the catalogues are available there and its an easy way to shop from the comfort of your own home. Although there is a long list of the most demanding designer’ brands out there, however I would like to recommend our top 10 picks.

  1. Junaid Jamshed
  2. Khaadi
  3. AlKaram 
  4. Gul Ahmed lawn
  5. Nisha By Nishat
  6. Sana Safinaz lawn
  7. Deepak Parwani
  8. Elan Everyday Wear by Elan 
  9. Maria B, 10
  10. Shariq Textile

 

By Tehreem Kashif
International Trend Contributor, Workingmomin20s.com
Email: Admin@Workingmomin20s.com

 

 

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Money Mindset After an Abusive Relationship

By: Alex Wigan

Dealing with money can be stressful enough, but trying to deal with money after exiting an abusive relationship definitely take the icing off the cake.

Statistics shows that:

  • 1 in 4 women report violence in their family in their lifetimes.
  • 2 million injuries and 1,300 deaths caused each year as a result of domestic violence.
  • All cultural, religious, socioeconomic and ethnic backgrounds are affected by domestic violence.
  • Nearly 2.2 million people called local and national domestic violence hotlines starting from the age of 18 and older.
  • Nearly 8 million days of paid work each year is lost due to domestic violence.

There are many reasons why people stay in abusive relationships, but one that makes it especially difficult for victims to leave is money. If a victim is financially dependent on their abuser for income, walking away is made all the more difficult. They often struggle to become financially self-sufficient, greater risk at falling into poverty or even homelessness.

I was a victim of domestic violence, and now I am a survivor able to share my own personal experience. I was in an abusive marriage. I must say since I have paid closer attention to the significant red flags early on, today I am proudly remarried.

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By: Alex Wigan

11 Tips on Gaining a Money Mindset After an Abusive Relationship:

  1. Do not allow your financial struggles while rebuilding your empire, make you return back to your abuser. Once you have gained the courage and power to leave, keep moving forward and don’t look back.
  2. Keep your emotions & money separate. Mind over Money. You may not get another chance to leave again with the gift of life.
  3. If your ex has knowledge of or access to your passwords, SSN, credit card statements or other identifying info, it would be a good idea to take the following measures to secure your personal information:
    • Closing any joint bank accounts & credit cards.
    • Put a security freeze on your credit report so that your ex can’t continue to use your social security number.
  4. Access your free annual credit report by visiting www.annualcreditreport.com.
  5. If your abuser ruined your credit score check out the Federal Trade Commission Consumer Response Center by visiting www.ftc.gov.
  6. Information on marital debt visit www.womenslaw.org and www.wife.org.
  7. Outlet for Victims of Domestic Violence to become Survivors visit www.thestillstandingfoundation.org.
  8. You may consider opening your own checking account (Credit Union Account Recommended) to start building your own credit history and savings.
  9. Downgrade whatever aspects of your lifestyle that you can compromise on, such as downgrade to a smaller dwelling now that you have left your abuser. After explaining your situation to a landlord, he/she may allow you to pay a small deposit and partial rent until you start receiving regular paychecks again.
  10. If you have a luxury vehicle trade it in for something more economical.
  11. Rewrite your will & change your beneficiaries on your insurance policies.

Finally, update both short and long-term financial goals. Sell any things that will simply remind you of your previous abusive relationship. And celebrate moving on.

Here is a quick video to help you identify how to leave an abusive relationship

Video Courtesy of Watch Well Cast

By: Shynna Key
Financial Contributor, Workingmomin20s.com
Email: Admin@Workingmomin20s.com
For more Empowerment about Finances you can get your copy of my book, Wealth is a Mindset at www.amazon.com.

 

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Get Ready for Summer with These Awesome Sunscreens

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2. Moisturizer with SPF

Lately, there have been more and more moisturizer with sun protection.  In fact, there’s a good chance that your favorite sunscreen comes in a version with SPF.  That being said, most moisturizer with SPF have a lower level of sun protection than stand alone sunscreen, so keep that in mind when making your choice.

Estee Lauder DayWear Advanced Multi-Protection Anti-Oxidant Creme Broad Spectrum SPF 15 I like this product because it has a pretty good level of sun protection, plus anti-oxidants, which help prevent sun damage. This moisturizer is great for normal skin.

Ultra Facial Cream 1.7 Oz This is a more basic moisturizer so it’s better for sensitive skin.

Clinique EVEN BETTER skin tone correcting moisturizer SPF20 50m I’ve been wearing this lately and loving it.  It moisturizer nicely and while it doesn’t have a matte finish, it doesn’t leave my skin too shiny either.  I’ve had no problems with it irritating my skin either.

 

3. Primers or Sprays with SPF.

This category is probably the newest to develop, and there are some really interesting products around.

MAC Prep + Prime Skin Base 30ml/1.0oz This is great if you wear makeup every day because you’re combining sun protection with priming your skin for makeup. The high SPF and antioxidants combine to provide great protection for the skin too.

Supergoop! Antioxidant-Infused Sunscreen Mist with Vitamin C SPF 50, 6 fl. oz. This is my favorite of the bunch because you can easily add this to your skincare routine.  I apply this before I go running outside and have had no problem with it stinging my eyes when I sweat.  This is also great to refresh your makeup before you head outdoors.  I love that this product makes it easy to reapply SPF throughout the day, which is the best way to protect your skin.

NARS by Nars Pro Prime Multi Protect Primer SPF30 Sunscreen/PA+++ –30ml/1oz for WOMEN (Package Of 2) This is another awesome primer that blends easily into the skin and makes a great foundation for makeup.

 

 

 

 

Lots of foundations and tinted moisturizer come with SPF as well, but I recommend a separate SPF just because we typically don’t apply enough foundation to get the full benefit of SPF.  Regardless of what you choose, make sure that sunscreen is part of your beauty protection.  A bit of effort now will save you heartache later!

By: Adia Goss
Beauty Contributor, Workingmomin20s.com
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Redefine Sexy- What is Sexy?

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In April, Lane Bryant launched a new campaign featuring top plus-sized models, such as Ashley Graham who is famous for being the first plus-size model to be featured in Sport’s Illustrated’s Swimsuit Edition. The Lane Bryant campaign slogan is “I’m no angel” and these “non-angels” are modeling lacy lingerie from Lane Bryant’s Cacique line. Although some people believed that the slogan might have been a jab at Victoria’s Secret angels, Linda Heasley, Lane Bryant CEO and President, told Today.com that the slogan is “only a reminder that sexy comes in all shapes and sizes.” [i] Heasley also stated, “It’s about helping all women to feel great about themselves. And if it gets people to stop and have a good laugh, that’s great.”

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With its “I’m no angel” campaign, Lane Bryant wanted to spark a conversation about redefining sexy. Lane Bryant actually encouraged fans to give their input on social media using the hashtag #ImNoAngel. Although many of the comments about the lingerie ads are uplifting and supportive (no pun intended), there are also some comments from some people who feel that the advertisement does not represent all women and that even the plus-size models in the ad are not a good representation of plus-size women. Someone posted a comment stating that the models weren’t “curvy” enough. Someone else criticized the campaign by pointing out the fact that Lane Bryant is brand that caters to plus-size women and therefore isn’t doing anything different with this campaign. While some fans praised Lane Bryant and suggested that the company run the advertisement on television, others talked about how this campaign is just the brand’s marketing technique to increase sales to its regular customers. The “I’m no angel” campaign definitely sparked a conversation; and that conversation starts with the question, “What is sexy?”

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Fortunately, the definition of sexy is not concrete. The idea of what is sexy is forever changing. However, women today still feel pressured to live up to an extremely thin body shape. This is evident by the surge in diet pills and program and in the increase in the number of plastic surgeries that have been performed in the last decade. The desire to be unbelievably thin can even be seen in recent fashion trends, such as waist trimmers, corsets and skinny jeans. Yet, if you look back through history you’ll find that it wasn’t always like this.

There was a time, believe it or not, when women were celebrated for their own natural bodies, and not some body that came from a pill, product, or procedure. Many paintings from the Renaissance period depicted voluptuous women who were considered sexy and beautiful. By today’s standards most of the women in those paintings would labeled as full-figured or plus-size, but that does not make them any less sexy.

During the post-war period in the 1950’s, a fuller figure was the ideal body image for women. Having a voluptuous body during this time was highly desired. During a time when “pin-up girls” were popular, brilliant artist, Duane Bryers, created illustrations of sexy pinup girl named Hilda who was full-figured and beautiful.

Even though larger, fuller-figured women were celebrated, the celebration soon dwindled. In the 1960s woman became obsessed with being skinny[ii]. They wanted to be skinny like some of the popular models of that era like the famous Twiggy who was known for her thin frame (hence the name).

It is getting harder and harder to look like today’s popular models. Twenty years ago the average model only weighed 8% less than the average woman. Today models weigh 23 % less. As the idea of sexy changes, women try to change their bodies to match that idea instead of accepting their own bodies and realizing they don’t need to look like someone else in order to be sexy. According to Bloomsburg University of Pennsylvania, researchers found out that “exposure to media depictions of thin female models lead women and girls to overestimate their own bodies, and report lower self-esteem.” Also, a Glamour magazine survey revealed that 97% of its readers said that they have at least one “I hate my body” thought a day and women have an average of 13 negative body thoughts a day.[iii]

So, do we need to redefine what sexy means today? That is a noble idea, but unnecessary. Sexy does not need to be redefined. Sexy needs to be recognized. A woman does not have to be a size 2 to be sexy, nor does she have to be a size 22. All a woman has to do is love and accept herself and realize that she does not have to be what someone else considers “perfect.”  In the words of Lane Bryant CEO and president, “sexy comes in all shapes and sizes.” The sooner women can stop looking at others to show them what is sexy, the sooner they will see their own sexy selves.

Video Courtesy of Lane Bryant

 

By: Angela Lewis
Contributor, Workingmomin20s.com
Email: Angela@Workingmomin20s.com

 

 

[i] www.today.com. http://www.today.com/style/lane-bryant-aims-take-back-sexy-im-no-angel-lingerie-t13271

[ii] www.stylecaster.com. http://stylecaster.com/timeline-sexy-defined-through-ages/

[iii] www.bloomu.com. https://www.bloomu.edu/wrc/be

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How Did It Come To This: Slavery Systematically Destroyed The Black Family

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The institution of slavery was a business that operated on the oppression of an entire society, which successfully destroyed the traditional African family core values mercilessly. The hierarchy structure of the traditional West African family and values of an entire people were destroyed and replaced with an economic driven control system. Using examples from author John W. Blassinggame The Slave Community: Plantation Life in the Antebellum South which made the argument that the monogamous slave family worked as a survival mechanism for black slaves. E. Franklin Frazier ‘s Negro Family in the United States (Phoenix Books) argued that rape and the contrast between the house negro and field slave led to the demise of the black family. Lets explore how the institution of slavery preyed on the physical and psychological structure of the African family using both of these arguments.

According to Blassinggame, the sex ratio in the South was near equal when compared to slave societies in Latin America. This fact would play a major part in the formation of monogamous families throughout the plantations. In Latin America, like throughout most slave populations throughout the New World, planters preferred men to women as slaves in large part because of the production of resources needed by strong workers for efficiency purposes. There wasn’t an emphasis placed on the natural reproduction of slaves early on because of the profitable nature of the African slave trade and its mass importation of African men, who were preferred physically for slave labor in comparison to women. However, by the mid 19th century the ratio had almost became even throughout the South, with the new emphasis placed on reproduction powered by slave women. Frazier argues that the sex ratio imbalance caused what was once strong feelings toward relationships to become animalistic, based off of casualness of contact between men and women slaves.

Planters would encourage monogamous relationships among slaves not for any moral purpose, but to maintain order on the plantation. Christianity was introduced to slaves in a bid to destroy any familiarity they may have with traditional heritage in order to integrate them further into the religious practices of their owners. Slavery is an institution of complete control enforced through physical and mental oppression. Frazier pointed out that it was easier to control a slave if he was married to a mate on the plantation because he is less likely to run away, instead benefiting from his ability to maintain order amongst other slaves on his behalf. For the most part, planters did not care about the sexual customs of slaves, only that order was maintained. As the Atlantic Slave Trade became illegal in the New World, planters forced slaves to mate in order to enrich the population. This ended the traditional African courtship system. The result was the male slave sex life placed directly in the control of planters, as much of their existence already were.

Courtship was a blend of old African and European customs learned through observation combined with the nomadic lust and rape by white plantation owners upon the slave women. As the African became transformed into the Afro-American male, he lost a lot of the authority and respect that is custom in most West African societies. Where in Africa, procreation is a natural occurrence of life with no ties to sin, the introduction of Christianity placed an emphasis on monogamy to be with one mate for life. While men may initiate courtship with women, the institution of slavery broke down any superiority that the male may have had in old traditions. In fact according to Blassinggame, the slave woman actually was more superior in this process than the male. Being the woman controlled the time, pace, and effectiveness of the conversation, it was she who ultimately determined his success. This further proved true in the dynamics of the slave household, where women was the symbol of strength and tolerance in comparison to the man.

According to Frazier, slaves picked up white traditions depending on the level of contact between slaves and whites. In this case, the growing difference between the field slave and the house Negro. “House Negroes” naturally took upon white traditions more eagerly because the close quarters and engagements between the slave and master in the house.The field slave looked to the house Negro as an example of politeness and gentility. This difference also caused slaves to become aware of different statuses within the plantation. Engagement patterns often led house negroes to improved lives and benefits, depending on their level of responsibility on the plantation.

Sexual conquest became a path to status in the slave community. Planter’s routinely raped and bought black women for these purposes. Slaves in turn, already suffering from animalistic sexual desires, became very reckless with their pursuit of women. Engaging in premarital sex as well as extramarital sex was rampant in slave quarters. In fact, most slaves preferred to marry slaves on other plantations because they can’t bear to see a loved one beaten and raped by their slave master. This further devalued the importance of a monogamous family and encouraged sexual encounters based on sexual urges alone.

Women were recognized as the head of the household and replaced the male, who being physically and mentally broken through the hardship and humiliating nature of slavery, could do little to stop this. Slaves always faced the possibility of being sold or killed on a daily basis, therefore the women were usually the comforters and instilled the discipline into the children, which was needed to live in a slave society. Unlike Africa, the black male had to come to grips with being controlled by another man, with absolutely no say in his own or family future.

 

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In conclusion, Frazier and Blessinggame both make the argument that slavery destroyed the black family through many methods. The eradication of African customs destroyed the male’s dominance over family life. The rape of black women devalued their character while introducing a less sympathetic courtship system within the black community. Slave masters encouraged monogamy as a means of maintaining order on the plantation and never cared for the long term effects the slavery system caused to an entire race. The family structure of blacks was no longer based on the male leading the family and making decisions, it was replaced by white superiority and dominance. This effect would have long lasting consequences on black life in America throughout history.

References: E. Franklin Frazier |John W. Blassinggame The Slave Community|wikipedia images

By: Hayden Williams III
Co-Founder of Workingmomin20s.com
Email: Info@Workingmomin20s.com

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10 Signs He’s Just Not That Into You

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Today’s dating and relationship world has become more complicated than ever, especially for women who are looking for monogamy, or dare I say, to get married. There are thousands of women who are currently dating or in relationships where the lines are blurred and relationship status constantly remains ambiguous. Often times, women are dating for prospective relationships, and possibly marriage. But, how do we do this correctly, how do we date without wasting our time on men who won’t show us that we are girlfriend, wife or even dating material. How do you decipher the signs that a man is just not into you?

 

A few weeks ago, I was speaking to a friend and the topic came up about dating and specifically, why men can’t make the same effort that women make to show a guy she likes him. I have come to the conclusion that it’s pretty simple—he’s just not into you. Here are 10 signs that will help you steer clear of unrequited love and one-sided relationships.

 

  1. He doesn’t call you If a man doesn’t call you, it’s a clear sign he’s not thinking about you. Even if a man is busy, if you are important to him he will call you even if it’s just for a minute to say hi, and see how your day is going. If you never hear from your guy he’s just not that into you.
  1. You initiate all contact– If you do speak to your guy but it’s only becauseyouinitiate a phone call or text first, again, he’s just not that into you. This isaone sided courtship, and it’s not fair to you. If a guy really likes you and wants to date you, you will receive uninitiated phone calls and text.

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  1. Non existent second date requestIf you recently went out on a first date, and your guy never called you back to invite you on a second date, it’s time to move on. Don’t get so caught up in the fact he said he would call, or speculating about why he didn’t call. Maybe the sparks just didn’t fly, maybe his cat died, who knows, but at this point don’t frustrate yourself about a guy who couldn’t even give you a courtesy call back.
  1. His life is a mystery Have you been dating a guy for a little while but you know absolutely nothing about his life—where he works, his goals, dreams? A guy who really likes a woman and is serious about her will allow himself to be vulnerable after dating for some time. He will open up to you about things that are important to him, because you are important to him.
  1. Activities always planned by you If you have to plan every single date, and even ask him out on said date, it’s because he’s just not that into you. If a guy really likes you, he will want to impress you. He will put effort into the relationship and he will ask you out on a date. If you are doing all the work, again he’s just not that into you.
  1. Unknown Relationship status-Have you been dating a guy for 6 months or more, and still don’t know if you are his girlfriend? Do you attempt to have conversations about exclusivity, only to be met with aloofness, and a quick change of subject by your guy? Men are pretty straightforward they know what they want, and when they find it they claim it. According to an article on sex and relationships written by Dr. Martha McCaughey, “men are competitive by nature, they compete for women against other men.” Essentially, if a man really cares for you he will make sure every man knows you’re off limits by making the two of you exclusive.
  1. You haven’t met his family or friends This one is pretty straightforward. If you have dated a guy for a while and you haven’t met his family or friends he just may not be that into you. Granted, there are some men who want to be sure, but generally, if a man really thinks you’re important, he will introduce you to the people most important to him.
  1. You’re the Main ChickI have found a disturbing new trend of women who are knowingly dating men who cheat. However, these women feel comforted, and even empowered because they are the “main chick” and, in theory, the priority in his life. News flash, if a man is seeing other women, no matter how you prioritize yourself in his hierarchy, he’s just not that into you. Call me old-fashioned, but in a real relationship a man shows you he’s into you by making you the ONLY one as opposed to the main one.
  1. He is Married This should be obvious but… If you are seeing a married man, believe me when I say HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. An article on relationships posted to Woman’s Day Journal states that less than twenty percent of married men leave their wives for the other woman. In fact, most married men who cheat are still very much in love with their wives, and are just “out for a good time.” Do not be so naïve to think that you have magic between your thighs and you will be the woman in that less than twenty percent category. Besides, you are worth more than a man who can’t see you on holidays, his birthday, or even in public. And why risk a high eighty percent of being hurt.
  1. Marriage is off the tableHave you been in a long-term relationship for years without an engagement ring? Are you constantly bringing up the subject of marriage only to be met with more excuses than a man trying to talk himself out of going to jail? Do you wonder why you cohabitate with a man without any prospects of ever getting married? If a man really loves you, and is into you, the only next step after years of being in a relationship is an engagement, which leads to marriage. I know there are men who are worried about finances, educational goals, stability, etc. before marriage. However, couples can work toward these things together while married. In fact, having a partner to support you along the way will allow you to build your empire a lot faster. I’ve seen women get stuck in this relationship rut but are afraid to leave, and end up in a dead-end relationship for decades. Beyoncé related the message clearly when she sang “if you liked it, then you should put a ring on it.” When a man knows you’re the one he won’t wait decades to make you the Mrs. Sometimes men are just entertaining a woman, until a woman who they feel is better comes along. Either way, why waste your time on someone who’s not into you enough to marry you after years of being together?

 

Here are a couple of books I suggest that are great reads, for women who are single, and dating or in a relationship.

 

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Finally, just remember the old cliché there are more fishes in the sea. This cannot be truer. Besides, you are too beautiful, and too fabulous to waste your time on men who don’t treat you accordingly! There is a man who has been designed just for you, but you will never find him if you keep wasting your time on men who are not serious about you. If he’s just not into you, it just wasn’t meant to be. Don’t blame yourself. Just move on and continue to be the wonderful woman you are, and someone will see you for just that!

 

By: Danyell Knox
Journalist, Workingmomin20s.com
Email: Danyell@Workingmomin20s.com

 

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Evolutionary Psychology ~ www.epjournal.net – 2008. 6(3): 482-486 WWW.WOMENSDAYJOURNAL.COM

 

 

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Protect and Serve or Shoot to Kill- Generation Y Takes on Police Brutality

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The Lyrics from the 1988 song titled “F*** The Police” by NWA states, “But don’t let it be a black and a white one, cause’ they’ll slam you down to the street top, black police showing out for the white cop.” Some would say NWA’s vulgar expression of dislike and disrespect for the police publicized the negative stigma of law enforcement and authority figures in the black community. “My definition of police brutality is when law enforcement takes the law into their own hands, to abuse, belittle or fatally wound a citizen to prove a point of power and control,” said Danika Coffee a 28-year-old African-American mother from the East Bay.

 

It’s 2015 can you insure that your children are safe from those who were hired to protect and serve?

As a mother of a 5-year-old son and former co-worker of the late Oscar Grant, Coffee shares her opinions on how she views most police. “They get away with so much because the title they hold can legally back them up without being punished for the brutality they have caused,” Coffee stated. Police brutality has become more prevalent in the media after the deaths of Oscar Grant, shot and killed by an officer at age 22 in 2009.  Tryavon Martin, shot and killed by vigilante neighbor at age 17 in 2013.  Michael Brown, shot and killed by and officer at age 18 in  2014.  Eric Gardner choked by an officer and killed at age 29 in 2014. The hands of law enforcement killed all four of those black men and each officer was acquitted of all charges.

 “I will most definitely make sure my son knows that the police are people just like us, and just like we have bad days so do they, but they have the legal power to control any situation, unless you know your rights. I will make sure as my son grows older he will be judicially informed,” Coffee concluded.

These four cases helped to ignite the already negative stigma behind law enforcement by causing riots, looting and protesting.So what’s a mother to do when past circumstances make it hard to trust the police? What’s law enforcement to do when they’ve lost trust and respect from the community they serve?

Officer Barry Parker, Gives insight on the realities of working in law enforcement in the Bay Area in this exclusive interview. Officer Parker shares that police are average people who have the same emotions and challenges as anyone else, therefore it is imperative to make wise decisions once confronted with law enforcement.

 

 

 

A criminal prosecutor from California requesting to stay anonymous answered a few questions to help parents instruct their children on the best ways to behave with interacting with law enforcement.

 

Specific advice for parents:

“I would recommend mothers to teach their children to be respectful and calm when dealing with a police officer.  When speaking with a suspect an officer does not know whether the person they are talking to is mentally ill, on drugs, or in possession of a weapon.  As a result, officers are sometimes equally as scared as the suspects they are dealing with.  The majority of police brutality cases arise from situations where the officer did not feel safe.  Therefore, mothers should teach their children not to curse at or fight with an officer, but instead be polite and speak to the officer with respect, even if they feel they are being wrongfully accused.”

 

“I’d also suggest mothers teach their children to record all interactions with police on their phone.  Doing so will prevent an officer from lying or twisting the facts in their favor.”

 

” I’d suggest mothers teach their children to not incriminate themselves when speaking with police.  So many suspects incriminate themselves with their words by admitting to parts of a crime while an officer is speaking with them.  For example, if you are driving under the influence do not voluntarily tell the officer you just had a few drinks at a bar.  Why are you making the officer’s job easier for them? By admitting to drinking, all you are doing is giving the officer more “Probable Cause” to arrest.  Therefore, mothers should teach their children to keep their mouth shut and tell the officer that you will not talk until you have a lawyer present.”

 

Know Basic Laws:

“Young men should know the basic laws about search and seizure law.  In order for an officer to lawfully stop a person, the officer must have a “reasonable suspicion” that a crime or traffic violation has been committed.  If the officer does not have a “reasonable suspicion” that a crime is afoot, then the person they stopped is free to leave. For example, if an officer sees a young man run a stop sign, jay walk or if that young man matches the description of a suspect, the officer can legally stop or briefly “detain” that man to conduct an investigation. But, however, if a man is walking down the street and he has given the officer no reason to believe he has committed a crime, nor does he match the description of a suspect, the officer does not have a “reasonable suspicion” to detain that man.  Such a detention is illegal unless the man gave his consent to be stopped.”

 

Don’t feel obligated to give consent:

“Consent to stop or detain a person can be easily given.  If an officer sees a man walking down the street and simply asks him “can I speak with you for a second,” and the man agrees to speak with the officer, that person has just consented to being stopped.  That same person can always revoke their consent and stop talking to the officer.  But, be careful because if while consensually speaking with the officer the man states information to give the officer a “reasonable suspicion” that he has committed a crime, the officer may detain the man without his consent.” “Therefore, if a person does not “consent” to be detained and an officer does not have a “reasonable suspicion” as the basis of a stop or detention, then the person being stopped is free to leave and may be the subject of an illegal detention if an officer refuses to let him leave.”

 

Don’t give an officer probable cause:

“The standard for an officer to arrest a person is higher than the standard to detain a person.  In order for an officer to legally arrest someone they must have “probable cause” to believe that person committed a crime.  In other words, an officer must have apparent facts supported by circumstances sufficiently strong to justify a reasonably intelligent and prudent person to believe that the accused person has committed the crime.

“For example, if an officer sees a car swerving in and out of a lane, that officer has a “reasonable suspicion” to believe that person is not driving safely and is in violation of the California Vehicle Code.  Once the officer has a reasonable suspicion, he may legally detain or pull that driver over to conduct an investigation.  If during the investigation the officer smells the odor of alcohol on the drivers breath, sees the drivers eyes are red and watery, hears the driver has slurred speech and the driver admits to drinking alcohol, that officer now has “probable cause” to arrest the driver for driving under the influence.”

 

Expand your professional network:

Finally, “The best resource to remain aware of the current laws is to have a friend or family member that is an attorney.  Because there are so many different areas of law and each area of law has hundreds of laws it is very difficult to stay on top of changes in the law.  If you have a friend or family member who is a lawyer you can always turn to them for help.”

 

“Injustice between law enforcement and the communities they serve has been negatively impacting America well before NWA’s 1988 controversial song titled “F*** The Police.”

 

A way to change this perspective is for the community to not only educate their children on how to behave when interacting with members of authority, but to also begin to make changes in the political arena by voting and challenging our children to become authority of the governing society.

 

By: Angelisa Ross
Journalist, Workingmomin20s.com
Email: Angelisa@Workingmomin20s.com
Videography: Antone Harrison

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Latest Beauty Secrets for Spring 2015

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Spring is definitely in the air and it’s time to transition from all those deep and dramatic makeup looks into something fresh and light. Here’s a roundup of the latest makeup trends for Spring 2015.
1. Winged Eyeliner
 55024e5968c18_-_hbz-beauty-ss2015-trends-black-liner-prada-bks-a-rs15-7536Winged eyeliner is definitely something that is associated with more dramatic looks, so it may not seem like an obvious choice for spring makeup. However, that’s exactly what makes this look so appealing. It’s unexpected and simple, yet impactful. It’s great for day with just a bright gloss, and can definitely work for evening with some falsies and a bold lip.
Winged Eyeliner:
2. Bright Lips
55024e5b1c2a2_-_hbz-beauty-ss2015-trends-red-lips-burberry-bks-a-rs15-3609Bright, bold lips are always on trend, but the thing that makes this look fresh, is using a stain rather than a fully opaque look. This keeps the bold look from coming across as too “done” and gives off the fresh, playful vibe that is so springy. Another way to keep this look from appearing too heavy is to keep the rest of the makeup pretty simple. We’re talking a tinted moisturizer and a dusting of blush or bronzer and some mascara.
3. Minimalist Nail Art
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I think we can all agree that nail art is not going away anytime soon. That being said, there are new trends each season, and one that I’m actually sort of excited about is the minimalist/negative space trend. It looks more sophisticated than prior versions and may even be a DIY option for those of you blessed with steady hands and the patience of a saint.
4. Messy Hair
spring_summer_2015_wavy_hairstyles51Ok, so in all honesty, I usually sigh heavily when I see this listed as a trend. The urban sophisticate in me is like “So it’s a trend to not comb your hair?” Meanwhile, the hippy in me is like “I want to wear flowers in my hair and just be free.” This “messy” hair trend is somewhere in the middle because it definitely requires work, but the goal is not perfectly done hair. It can be achieved using a braid-out (which is great for natural and relaxed hair), a curling wand, sea salt spray, or a combination of all three. The look is wavy hair that’s not too perfect, but definitely “done.”
messy hair tutorial:

Video Courtesy of DeziredBeauty 

5. Modern Matte Skin
00280h_592x888The foundation to any look is great skin, and this season we’re seeing lots of looks featuring matte skin that actually looks like skin. I’m not talking heavy makeup at all because some newer products have made it possible to achieve light to medium coverage with a matte finish.
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Video courtesy of MAC Cosmetics  

What beauty trends are you planning to try this spring?

By: Adia Goss
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Is your child safe from Sexual Predators or Cyber Bullies?

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The top two priorities of all good parents are essentially the same –

(1) to protect their children and
(2) to provide for their children’s needs

The Internet makes doing both of these difficult, but it is not impossible if you know what to do.

The Internet can be very beneficial to anyone who uses it, especially children. According to the Cyberethics website (www.cyberethics.info) , the Internet is “the most valuable tool in various settings of a person’s life.” The Internet has a massive amount of information and capabilities that expand children’s knowledge and education as they explore different interests, skills, cultures, etc.

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Unfortunately, the Internet also exposes children to dangers as they explore this vast information superhighway.

Individuals, called “sexual predators,” often use the Internet to prey on children and sexually exploit them. Sexual predators use online services to steadily work to gain a child’s trust. They entice children by offering them gifts, affection, attention and more.

**Sexual predators will listen to children’s problems and empathize with them. They also make sure that they know all the current music and other topics in which their prey is interested. These dangerous individuals do whatever they need to in the attempt to increasingly lower a child’s shyness and innocence by gradually introducing sexual concepts and topics into the conversation. Eventually, the sexual predators will try to obtain child-pornographic photos or images and/or meet the child in person.

Some parents are so concerned about the dangers of the Internet that they just refuse to allow their children to use the internet. That is not the answer. The Internet is not the problem. It is similar to the saying about guns – “Guns don’t kill people. People kill people.” The Internet is not dangerous. Some of the people who use it are dangerous.

**Internet Bullying resulting in suicide is also a major problem the use of internet has brought to many families. Children and teenagers have fall victim to scrutiny from their fellow classmates, leading them in path of suicide and depression. As a parent, you must take precaution and pay close attention to internet activities and your child’s  social media behaviors for their own safety.

  • Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts. Over 14 percent of high school students have considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have attempted it.
  • Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University
  • A study in Britain found that at least half of suicides among young people are related to bullying
  • 10 to 14 year old girls may be at even higher risk for suicide, according to the study above
  • According to statistics reported by ABC News, nearly 30 percent of students are either bullies or victims of bullying, and 160,000 kids stay home from school every day because of fear of bullying

Find out more visit:  Bullying & Suicide 

How to protect your Child from Cyber Bullies:

So how do parents keep their children safe? Here are a few tips from: The Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) :

  • Communication. Talk to your children and explain the dangers. Instruct them not to disclose personal information, not to send pictures of themselves, and not to agree to meet with someone they met on the Internet.
  • Join them. Let them show you their favorite websites and how to use them.
  • Computer Setup. DO NOT keep the computer in the child’s bedroom. Make sure it is in a common room of the house where you can see it.
  • Use Resources. Browser options contain parental controls. Parents can also purchase Internet Safety software.
    Internet dangers are real and frightening, but parents do not have to be afraid to let their children use the Internet. Parents just need to remain informed and knowledgeable and pass that information on to their children. For more information, parents can contact their local FBI office.

Find out more about Signs your child may be a victim of Bullying.

More information about protecting your family internet safety

Our hope is that with the proper precautionary methods in place, we can educate a parent and save a child’s life. Please protect your family, and do not fall prey to dangers of the world wide web.

By: Angela Lewis
Workingmomin20s.com Contributor
Email: Admin@Workingmomin20s.com

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13 Most fashionable Working Moms

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13 Most fashionable Working Mom’s who makes fashion statements on our Time lines and Magazine spreads more than often:

13.) Ciara- This new mom to Baby Future did not take any time getting rid of her baby weight. Ciara can be found walking the red carpet in the hottest designer gowns with her body in perfect shape from head to toe. Ciara is a force to be reckoned with, even in her new role as mommy, she still very sexy and does not let motherhood hold her back from celebrating her femininity.

12.) Solange- The 28 year old Mother to son Juelz 9  is always fashionable and Sultry with her own unique style. The world has embraces her for her ability to connect with her soul so richly and express her vision through her music and fashion choices.

11.) Miranda Kerr- She is most notable as a Victoria Secret’s Angel supermodel, New face of Swarovski and former wife of Orlando Bloom, who through marriage birth their first son. Miranda always lands on the hottest list, one way of the other, with her girl next door looks and her amazing body, designers worldwide are always at her doorstep requesting she walks their runways.

10.) Evelyn Lozada- A reality show vixen turned housewife and entrepreneur. Evelyn has come a long way from reality show personality to business woman and a mother of two. Evelyn Lozada makes our list for hottest mom, because she truly is HOTT with two TTs.

9.) Victoria Beckham- The Beautiful wife to David Beckham and Mother of 4. Has her own Clothing line named after herself. Victoria Beckham has a high fashion line that has been successful for about 6 years  and recently opened her own store in London. She shows us that Fashion  is what she loves by always looking her very best -all the time.

8.) Heidi Klum- The Beautiful host of Project Runway and Mother of 4 continues to Look fab at 41 years. She always appears timeless and blessed with amazing genes, as she finds a way to snap back to her original weight literally minutes after giving birth. We love and adore Heidi Klum.

7.) Gwen Stefani- The No doubt singer and one of the Judges on The Voice has her own chic style but continues to Look young and vibrant even with being a mother of two and owner of her own clothing & shoe line L.A.M.B. Gwen Stefani is a rocking mom and absolutely beautiful in her own right.

6.) Michelle Obama- The First Lady continues to Look fab at every event. As first Lady of the United States, she gives mothers everywhere hope that a balance can and does exist even in the most powerful position. Her beauty exudes from within, and seeing her smile appeases the world and mothers everywhere alike.

5.) Lala Anthony- The Beautiful Wife of Basketball Player Carmelo Anthony and Mother of Kiyan Owner of her own clothing line 5th & Mercer is one of our top five picks for looking stylish and maintaining her role as mother, wife, actor, entrepreneur, and role model.

4.) Taraji P Henson- Hits our Number 4 spot with her Hit series show EMPIRE starring her alongside Terrance Howard this Mother of One always keeps it classy and elegant.

3.) Beyonce- Where do we begin. She may be even too hot for this list. This mother, singer, wife, actor, entrepreneur, philantropist. Also secures herself on the best dressed list, and manages to make headlines on a weekly basis, an achievement that is unattainable. Beyonce is beautiful, bold, a risk taker, and does not apologize for her creativity or methods she chooses to express them. We love Beyonce, she is simply beyond this world.

2.) Gisele Bundchen: Victoria Secret’s Angel, wife of NFL 2015 Superbowl Champion, Tom Brady of the Boston Patriots. Mother of 2. Gisele has also ventured into acting, but with all her many talents, we can all agree that is is smoking hot mom!

1.) Jennifer Lopez- Aka Ms. Jlo to never let us down this mom of two continues to look fabulous at 45 years old this photo speaks volume she is essentially, timeless.

By Asha Twyman
Entertainment Editor, Workingmomin20s
Email: Asha@Workingmomin20s.com